The Gentleman's Guide

Ladies & Gentlemen, questions?   Want to ask a question? Need advice for your relationship? I'm here to give you the most honest and helpful answer I know. I've been through a lot in my life. I want to share what I have learned with you. Also, find all of the "Gentlemen's Guide" quotes by Hplyrikz on 1 page! :)


About me: I am 23 years young, a wife and the momma of a smart little boy. I have been through an insane amount of heartache and my goal is to help each and every one of you, even if it's only in some small way.
I am a Christian. When I say that I am a Christian, I don't speak of this with pride, I'm confessing that I stumble and I need Christ to be my guide. I'm not bragging of success, I'm admitting I have failed and need God to clean my mess.

Anonymous asked: So I have been 'hooking up' with this guy for over a year now.... and I think I love him :S Sometimes he shows signs that he feels the same way like getting super jealous when other guys talk/flirt with me but one night in the summer he told me he likes the way things are between us. After he told me that, I try to keep my distance from him. ANYWAYS I'm thinking about making the first move & buy him a little gift for Valentine's Day. Nothing major just alittle something. What should I do?


Answer:

I would just talk to him about how you feel, but be open that he might not feel the same way. I would tell him that you don’t think you can keep JUST ‘hooking up’, that you want more than that with him. I hope that he feels the same way and that you guys end up together. I hope this helps. Good luck & God bless!

— 3 weeks ago with 4 notes
Anonymous asked: Hi, I have a friend who I haven't spoken too in nearly a month. He just stopped talking to me- without any explanation. He was... is a great friend. He really changed my life around when I was at my lowest. We always used to hang out a lot and we had that friendship as if we were gf/bf. But because of my insecurities, I always thought he deserved so much better. I think that's why he stopped talking to me. I just want my friend back and I miss him. What can I do? Thank you.


Answer:

Call him up and tell him that you are sorry, that you want your friend back. Hopefully he will come back into your life. Honestly, I’ve had this happen to me. Sometimes, they don’t come back, they have already moved on and might have gotten into a relationship. They might not feel that it is appropriate to continue being in such a close friendship with someone that they had feelings for. I hope this isn’t the case for you, I hope that he does still want to be friends with you. I hope this helps. Good luck & God bless!

— 3 weeks ago with 3 notes
Anonymous asked: Hey so I have a serious problem. I really want to find a girlfriend. I have asked people how to talk to girls, what girls like, how to show them I'm interested. But once it comes down to talking to them I freeze and hesitate and end up not even talking to her. I get so frustrated with myself because I just let them go and regret not taking to them. I've messed up so many opportunities. I just need to know how to be confident. I hear a lot of guys fake it, but I can't even do that! Please help me


Answer:

Take a deep breath before you go talk to them, I know that’s not a ton of advice but you have to remember that if they reject you and don’t even if you a chance, then they aren’t the girl for you. Your confidence has to start from within, you have to tell yourself that you are worth it and you have a lot to give someone. Don’t sell yourself short on what you have to offer. At some point you are just going to have to take the plunge and put yourself out there. I hope this advice helps. Good luck & God bless! 

— 3 weeks ago with 1 note
Anonymous asked: Theres this girl & we r really close now. Weve kissed a few times & hang out often bt I still have doubts on how she really feels. Shes a "healer" & does things 2 fix guys & make them feel better. (Pretending she likes them) Shes really good at acting The reason I know is cause her "ex" she never really liked. He was a lonely guy kinda hurting & really liked her so she "helped" him. Im afraid shes trying 2 do the same to me. She tells me Im different bt how do I know. I don't want 2 b a project


Answer:

Unfortunately, there isn’t a test you can do to see if you are different or if you are a project. The only thing you can do is talk to her about it, I understand that you don’t want to be a project to someone, you want someone to really care about you. If you are close with her then I would be completely honest with how it’s making you feel. I hope this helps. Good luck & God bless!

— 3 weeks ago with 1 note
Anonymous asked: Thanks for this post it's help alot of girls my question is how I can deal with man who is cold you know emotionally we engage to each other but he doesn't show his own feelings even in simple things like care or text me bak I really thought that he doesn't love me and he talk with many girls so how can I deal with that and I want to help him to stop smoking


Answer:

It isn’t your job to fix him, I think that we forget that, sometimes. When we get into a relationship it isn’t about fixing the person, it’s about being with one another. If he isn’t showing his feelings, you just have to show him that he can trust you and be vulnerable with you. If he’s talking with many girls, maybe you need to talk to him and tell him how that makes you feel. Also, you can’t help someone stop smoking unless they want to stop smoking. Good luck & God bless!

— 3 weeks ago
Anonymous asked: Hey there! I'm from Bulgaria and have had a really bad luck when it comes to guys so far. It's as if I attract guys who know only how to be (sorry for using such a word) assholes. I know my character. I can't say it's great and I can't say I'm perfect either. After starting a relationship I always give my all, I try being completly honest and at the same time I really try not to neglet my own feelings and needs. But it always ends up the same. Is it really my luck,or am I doing something wrong?


Answer:

Sometimes we just have bad luck, it doesn’t mean that we have something wrong with us, it just means that the timing isn’t right yet. No one is perfect. You should continue to give your all if you are looking for love, but continue  to also make sure your needs and feelings are met as well. Don’t worry, when the time is right and the guy is right, it will happen. Good luck & God bless!

— 3 weeks ago
Anonymous asked: Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months. And we're happy. But he's best friends with a girl named Emma and she flirts with him.. Right in front of me. She'll pull me away from him so she can talk.. And she constantly touches him.. I don't know what to say.. I don't wanna be rude because that's his best friend but sometimes I wonder if he likes her but when I ask he swears it's only me.. What do I do?


Answer:

Stand up, let her know that it’s not acceptable what she is doing if you don’t like it. Let your boyfriend know how uncomfortable it makes you with her but that you don’t want to make him angry. If I were in your position, I would be frustrated as well. If after talking to him, nothing changes, I would talk to her and tell her that it really bothers you, it might make things awkward for awhile but it also might change some things. If it doesn’t change things, then I would have a heart to heart with your boyfriend and let him know that if it doesn’t change you don’t know how comfortable you can continue to be in this relationship (this part is your choice, this is just what I would do). Please do not let your worries about being rude stop you from doing something about this, because it’s not acceptable, she should be respecting your relationship with him and that he has chosen you to be with. I hope this helps. Good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

— 2 months ago with 4 notes
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 5 months. I feel like he tries to control me sometimes by guilting me into things. He acts sad to get me to feel bad and cave in. What can I do or say to him that will get him to stop? He has depression and some other issues but he's getting help for them, so I have to be gentle with how I say things..


Answer:

This is a tough one, I had a friend who was married to a guy like that, and it didn’t work out for her. I guess my biggest piece of advice would be to gently tell him how it makes you feel when he does this. Let him know that it’s not fair to you that you feel manipulated into doing things, relationships that work require compromise from both sides. Every time he starts to do it, gently tell him that you aren’t going to be manipulated and walk away until he can talk to you without making you feel bad. I hope this helps! Good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

— 2 months ago with 2 notes
Anonymous asked: I've been friends with this girl for 3 years now. We've been through alot and we've become really close over the years, but we've always stayed just friends. Over the past couple months though we've had this romantic tension between us and just the other that tension finally gave and we kissed. The problem is that she has a boyfriend and they were together while all this tension was building. I do really like her but i know getting in between her current relationship is wrong. What can I do?


Answer:

I would talk to her and tell her that you don’t want to get in between her current relationship. I would take a step back and try to give yourself some space to not get your heart more involved in her. Distance yourself from the situation and her until she knows exactly what she wants to do. Please do keep your distance for awhile. I hope things work out for you. I hope this helps. Good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

— 2 months ago with 1 note
Anonymous asked: This guy I went to school with for 5 years and I have been texting for ages and we like eachother but he goes through times when he ignores me completely for up to a week and then just says he hasn't been having a good week.. I know he's busy, but it still makes me feel like I'm not important and the only one putting in the effort, we've met up a few times but it doesn't seem to be going anywhere.. Do I try to forget about him or keep at it? It's a lot more complex but I have limited characters


Answer:

I would just be honest with him about you are feeling. If you don’t feel like he is as committed to this as you are, then let him know. I know people in my life that when they really aren’t having a good week, they tend to shrink away from anyone so he really might be not having a good week. I can totally understand about not feeling important though. I wouldn’t say forget about him but I would say that you should try to move on unless something changes and he starts chasing you, instead of you going after him. I hope this helps. Good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

— 2 months ago with 1 note