The Gentleman's Guide

Ladies & Gentlemen, questions?   Want to ask a question? Need advice for your relationship? I'm here to give you the most honest and helpful answer I know. I've been through a lot in my life. I want to share what I have learned with you. Also, find all of the "Gentlemen's Guide" quotes by Hplyrikz on 1 page! :)


About me: I am 23 years young, a wife and the momma of a smart little boy. I have been through an insane amount of heartache and my goal is to help each and every one of you, even if it's only in some small way.
I am a Christian. When I say that I am a Christian, I don't speak of this with pride, I'm confessing that I stumble and I need Christ to be my guide. I'm not bragging of success, I'm admitting I have failed and need God to clean my mess.

Anonymous asked: Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months. And we're happy. But he's best friends with a girl named Emma and she flirts with him.. Right in front of me. She'll pull me away from him so she can talk.. And she constantly touches him.. I don't know what to say.. I don't wanna be rude because that's his best friend but sometimes I wonder if he likes her but when I ask he swears it's only me.. What do I do?


Answer:

Stand up, let her know that it’s not acceptable what she is doing if you don’t like it. Let your boyfriend know how uncomfortable it makes you with her but that you don’t want to make him angry. If I were in your position, I would be frustrated as well. If after talking to him, nothing changes, I would talk to her and tell her that it really bothers you, it might make things awkward for awhile but it also might change some things. If it doesn’t change things, then I would have a heart to heart with your boyfriend and let him know that if it doesn’t change you don’t know how comfortable you can continue to be in this relationship (this part is your choice, this is just what I would do). Please do not let your worries about being rude stop you from doing something about this, because it’s not acceptable, she should be respecting your relationship with him and that he has chosen you to be with. I hope this helps. Good luck & God bless!

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— 4 weeks ago with 3 notes
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 5 months. I feel like he tries to control me sometimes by guilting me into things. He acts sad to get me to feel bad and cave in. What can I do or say to him that will get him to stop? He has depression and some other issues but he's getting help for them, so I have to be gentle with how I say things..


Answer:

This is a tough one, I had a friend who was married to a guy like that, and it didn’t work out for her. I guess my biggest piece of advice would be to gently tell him how it makes you feel when he does this. Let him know that it’s not fair to you that you feel manipulated into doing things, relationships that work require compromise from both sides. Every time he starts to do it, gently tell him that you aren’t going to be manipulated and walk away until he can talk to you without making you feel bad. I hope this helps! Good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

— 4 weeks ago with 2 notes
Anonymous asked: I've been friends with this girl for 3 years now. We've been through alot and we've become really close over the years, but we've always stayed just friends. Over the past couple months though we've had this romantic tension between us and just the other that tension finally gave and we kissed. The problem is that she has a boyfriend and they were together while all this tension was building. I do really like her but i know getting in between her current relationship is wrong. What can I do?


Answer:

I would talk to her and tell her that you don’t want to get in between her current relationship. I would take a step back and try to give yourself some space to not get your heart more involved in her. Distance yourself from the situation and her until she knows exactly what she wants to do. Please do keep your distance for awhile. I hope things work out for you. I hope this helps. Good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

— 4 weeks ago with 1 note
Anonymous asked: This guy I went to school with for 5 years and I have been texting for ages and we like eachother but he goes through times when he ignores me completely for up to a week and then just says he hasn't been having a good week.. I know he's busy, but it still makes me feel like I'm not important and the only one putting in the effort, we've met up a few times but it doesn't seem to be going anywhere.. Do I try to forget about him or keep at it? It's a lot more complex but I have limited characters


Answer:

I would just be honest with him about you are feeling. If you don’t feel like he is as committed to this as you are, then let him know. I know people in my life that when they really aren’t having a good week, they tend to shrink away from anyone so he really might be not having a good week. I can totally understand about not feeling important though. I wouldn’t say forget about him but I would say that you should try to move on unless something changes and he starts chasing you, instead of you going after him. I hope this helps. Good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

— 4 weeks ago with 1 note