The Gentleman's Guide

Ladies & Gentlemen, questions?   Want to ask a question? Need advice for your relationship? I'm here to give you the most honest and helpful answer I know. I've been through a lot in my life. I want to share what I have learned with you. Also, find all of the "Gentlemen's Guide" quotes by Hplyrikz on 1 page! :)

About me: I am 23 years young, the wife of 1 and the momma of 2. I have been through an insane amount of heartache and my goal is to help each and every one of you, even if it's only in some small way.
I am a Christian. When I say that I am a Christian, I don't speak of this with pride, I'm confessing that I stumble and I need Christ to be my guide. I'm not bragging of success, I'm admitting I have failed and need God to clean my mess.

Anonymous asked: I have 32 years old. Never had a boyfriend... I'm really shy but I really want to share my life with a man, I don't like to be alone all the time! What should I do? :S


Answer:

Take your time. Love will find you. I know it sounds cliche’ but it’s true. Just enjoy the time you have. I know it seems like nothing will ever happen, but it happens when you least expect it to. Hang out with your friends, go to the movies, travel, find a new hobby. Do things you can only do when your single! Everyone thinks that life just continues with a mate at your side when you get married or meet the one, but there are so many things that change or you forget about. There are so many things that I would have done (like travel) if I would have just embraced being single. Your one will come but until then, enjoy the single life, make the most of the time you have. Good luck & God bless!

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Anonymous asked: Ok, so I like this guy but hes 17 ( 3 years older) we only see eachother a couple times a day in school but we talk all the time! Hes super sweet and has never disrespected me in any way. It seems like he likes me but I don't know plus hes like a pretty boy , what I mean is a lot of girls probably like him! I don't know what to do! Im younger so I feel like I cant ask him plus I find myself thinking he'll never like me!! Help please?


Answer:

I would just talk to him, I know you are younger but that may be why he’s not talking to you about it either. Take a leap of faith. Just be sure to not mistake his kindness for liking. Unfortunately, it happens a lot. Girls think that guys talking to them a lot automatically means that the guy likes them, which isn’t always true. The best way to find out though is to talk to him about it, if you talk a lot anyways, that means your close. Take a risk and just ask, if not, no harm done and you’ve saved yourself some heartache in the long run. If he does, great! Let him take the lead from there. Hope this helps! Good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

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Anonymous asked: Bee n with my boyfriend for over 3 year and have a baby with him love him so much and quite sure he loves me back equally if not more only tonight he when to the cinema with another girl even tho he knew I didn't feel happy about it and got upset he text her all the time and has gotten very secretive about his phone he says they are just friends and doesn't want to not go as she doesn't have many friends I feel like I should come first even if she hasn't got any friend and he wants stay close


Answer:

I would talk to him about it. Tell him that it really bothers you. It would bother me too. I think it’s okay to have friends but the other person should be friends with both of you. I do not agree that he went to the movies without you with her. Your relationship should come first. A lot of men have a hard time understanding why this bothers us, so explain it to him, tell him exactly how you feel. He might change how things happen then. I hope this helps. Good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

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Anonymous asked: Great blog!!!!!


Answer:

Thank you! I appreciate that. I do my best to continue this blog. It’s been going for over a year now. I am extremely proud of that and very grateful for all of my followers! Love to you all!

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Anonymous asked: So there's this guy I've liked for 6 years and I recently dated him and we broke up last Monday, we still talk and flirt but he said it's nothing serious and he constantly flirts with other girls.. I try to flirt with guys but it makes me sick to my stomach, my friends tell me to move on but honestly if moving on was something I could handle i would've given up after a year of him not liking me.. 6 years I've liked him, I can't just move on... I don't know what to do </3 please help


Answer:

Eventually you will move on, you didn’t say why things didn’t work out. I’m going to assume you guys tried and it was just not what you were expecting. I know it’s not easy to move on, I’ve been right where you are. I can tell you that eventually you will see something change in you and it will get better. Don’t try to force yourself to move on, let your heart do what it needs to. Healing takes time. Could be awhile or it could be a few weeks. Just don’t try to force yourself into flirting with others or move on. Just be you for awhile. There’s nothing wrong with that. Good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

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Anonymous asked: I used to be a gentleman. I've been with my lady for 10 years, but shortly before our 10th anniversary, I started an affair with a girl at work. There is little about her to make me forego my life, my partner and our two beautiful boys, 7 and 2. I was always staunch that I would never stray, fidelity was one of the most important things to me, something I was always strong on. And yet, I strayed, for four months. And I was found out. I cant say why I did this, but it has wrecked my life & theirs


Answer:

Affairs are rough and something really hard to come back from. Not many people can do it. Honestly, I don’t know what you can do other than try to rebuild your trust and show her that you love her. Most people assume that they will never cheat, I think that’s a lie, unless you guard yourself from it and make sure you know your limits, its possible it could happen. I hope things work out for you and your boys. Relationships are hard. We all make mistakes, its what we do after that matters. I hope for the sake of your boys you two can figure things out even though it’s hard. Learn from this lesson, guard your heart, your eyes, and your thoughts. Be careful. Good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

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Anonymous asked: Me and gf been dating for 8 months. She's been away for 4 months outside the US and she's coming back soon. I have feelings for her on and off. She doesn't let anyone know we're dating and its discouraging. Idk if I should break it off or what.


Answer:

I would have a sit down talk with her. Explain that you don’t understand why she hasn’t told anyone about you two. Be honest. Long distances relationships are extremely hard and not for the faint of heart. If you feel like you guys really want to be together, keep at it. Keep working for it. Don’t give up unless there’s nothing left. I hope this helps, good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

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Anonymous asked: I care for my girlfriend-- a lot. I don't push for her to open up if she's ever upset about anything, but I calmly and non-abrasively let her know that I'm there for her. I surprise her when she's upset; even out of the blue just for keepsake. We've been rebuilding a 1-year relationship for the last 3 months-- we are both happier than ever, although; something is driving me mental: she's opened up before and I've been there to listen (not fix or change).. but I feel like she's hiding emotions...


Answer:

Hu! Rebuilding a relationship takes time, sometimes more time than we’d like. If you guys have been rebuilding the relationship then most likely for a while she will not be as open. As long as you guys continue down the path of rebuilding, she will open back up. You just need to give her time. I hope this helps! Good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

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Anonymous asked: just a quick question.. is there a ladies guide? :)


Answer:

Unfortunately, not that I know of. If I had more time, I would start one. I love answering questions from both men & women though. Thanks for the support!

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Anonymous asked: I really like this incredible guy and everyone at school(even teachers) think we're a good match. But I don't want to get my hopes up in case he does like me. And I don't want to tell him right now. I want to ease my way into his life. But I don't know how. He doesn't have a cell phone and I don't have a Facebook to talk to him outside of school. I'm not sure if a relationship right now is right for me because we're 17. I'm not sure how to go about this so I was wondering if you had any ideas.


Answer:

I think you’re incredibly smart for not wanting to just jump into a relationship. If I were you, I would just be his friend, even if its inside school times. Just get to know him better, you might not even like him as much after you get to know him. Or you might end up liking him even more and knowing for sure if you want to date him or not. I wouldn’t get your hopes up, I would just be his friend, think of it as making a new friend and if something comes of it great, if it doesn’t great, you made a good friend! I hope this helps. Good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

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actualliamermaid asked: So i like this guy but he has a girlfriend and all my friends say he likes me. I heard he wants to break up with his girlfriend because he likes someone else and the girl he likes Is in my grade and he doesnt know who she is. And my friend told me he stares at me while smiling and his friend is friends with my friend and he told lexi that i might be the girl he likes. What do i do? I need help ):


Answer:

Sorry it’s taken me so long so to answer. I wouldn’t do anything, I would let it play out. If he has a girlfriend though, he needs to be respectful and tell her and talk to her about it. Think about it, what happens if you get together and someone else comes along, wouldn’t you want to know? Wouldn’t you want to be told if he were interested in another girl. I think it’s best to just sit back and not worry about it until he makes a move. I’ll  be honest, guys that do that when they have a girlfriend make me angry. They make the women who actually want an honest relationship get hurt because they couldn’t be honest with their feelings. I hope this helps and makes you think about the situation a little bit. Good luck & God bless!

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

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Anonymous asked: I have strong feelings for this girl whom I've known since my freshman year of high school and she beautiful, caring, amazing to be around and she the only girl that can really make me smile and laugh and I can be myself around and I've told her multiple times I have stronger feelings and want to be more than friends and she of course friend zoned me. Now my senior year my guy friends basically told get the fuck over her and talk to other girls in which I did but it's difficult


Answer:

Who makes your friends the boss of you? You don’t have to get over her if you don’t want to. If you have talked to her and she doesn’t feel the same towards you, then you either have to try to move on or continue on the same path knowing that it will most likely not work out the way you want it to. Be happy that she is your friend, that you can still be a part of her life. I know in high school it seems like everything is permanent, that you won’t find anyone better. I promise though, life is so different outside of high school and there will be someone who you fall madly in love with. If you don’t feel like you can move on right now, don’t, it’s okay. I hope this helps. Good luck & God bless! 

Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! -guideforgentlemen

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